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When I was 15, the boy I'd been secretly dating told me over AOL Instant Messenger that he liked me, but he didn't want to see me anymore.

And that's something I'm not willing to lose right now.

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I would cry every night, hoping to get out of this awful place, but not knowing the right way to break free.

I moved back home, feeling like I had lost everything. We were living together, and he shared such a special part of himself with me—his daughter—so I wanted to stay home and be a part of her life.

I come home every night, hop in a hot, relaxing shower and curl up with my Netflix, content to start all over again tomorrow.

I'm not concerned about anyone texting me back or if they like me or if we're just friends or whatever.

So, you’ve made the decision to abstain from sex until marriage? You are dating while celibate and you’ve joined many other singles who have made this personal and spiritual choice, including Meagan Good and Tamara Mowry who both decided to become celibate while they were dating.

While I celebrate your courage to make this choice, I know you may feel like it’s almost impossible to find someone who respects your values and is willing to grow with you as you move forward in your relationship.If they decide they can’t handle not having sex until marriage, let them go!Be confident that you will find the right person who will happily respect you.More and more couples are choosing to put sex on hold in favor of finding love and a worthy life partner first. BILLINGSLEY: We are a faith-based site but our mission is celibacy. We’re starting to hear a lot of success stories, ESSENCE. We promote those relationships and you can actually meet new friends on there as well.(And, we couldn’t be more proud.) Many of our readers have spoken out about their decisions to press pause on their sex lives and some expressed concern about how difficult dating can be once you’ve made the call. JEREMY BILLINGSLEY: One Sunday I was in church and the pastor was preaching about love and fornication and he was really trying to direct the sermon to the singles there, and I though to myself, outside of the church there really aren’t that many places where celibate singles can go that embraces that lifestyle and meet others on the same accord as them. BILLINGSLEY: Black is for anyone who is celibate or considering celibacy. We just want to bring those people together in a positive way.It's only been a month, but I already feel so welcome in this work environment by my kind, respectful colleagues.