As people’s lives become busier and as careers take off, your priorities shift.It seems that all the negatives of an LDR in college are now its major selling points.In the dark ages before texting and sexting and the ease of constant communication afforded to us by our personal devices, I spent a lot of time on the phone and on Instant Messenger, smoothing over hurt feelings or picking fights.

If plane tickets are involved, talk about splitting the cost, and make sure that you’re not the one shelling out $400 every month to go somewhere for a harried, busy weekend. Relationships are hard because all of a sudden you have to incorporate someone else’ life into your own.

If you’re an independent person by nature, this intrusion can be awkward.

After a whirlwind week where you manage to cram in a months’ worth of getting to know you, he leaves, back to his life and you to yours.

The inevitable ennui sets in, but before you chalk this up to another fling with no staying power, do yourself a favor: Consider the adult long-distance relationship.

A sideways comment said out of frustration or stress can be bad, but is usually explained away face to face.

That same comment over the phone or sent by text message or Gchat has the potential to develop into a giant bomb of hurt feelings and misunderstanding. When you live in the same city, extended periods of silence or a lack of steady communication are taken in stride.The fact of the matter is that you’ll find yourself missing that person a lot while you guys are apart.Make sure to have loose plans set in place for your visits, and be sure to share the financial burden. The thing that people don’t talk about when they discuss their long-distance relationships is the independence it affords you.Being in a long-distance relationship means that you can still maintain your independence.A time difference that seems like a pain in the ass at first becomes a handy way for you to manage your time.We tried to make it work as best we could, but ultimately the distance worked against us.