We are never told that the creation order was a prescription for the birth order of spouses. This is a case of reading a particular interpretation into the text, and should be discarded as such. Age, personality, background, life goals, life priorities, and other personal qualities are all important considerations when thinking about marriage.

On the other hand, the difference between a 45 year-old man and a 50 year-old woman is basically nothing. And some single women are at an age when a five year age difference means nothing.

Which gets to the problem with this blogger’s advice: it cannot be generalized. My heart is especially tender for this latter category of singles, since I have a number of single friends in their 30’s and 40’s who long to be married but have fewer and fewer options available to them.

But that does not mean ALL Christian men should avoid marrying Christian feminists, anymore than ALL men should avoid marrying older women.

The church is beautifully diverse, and every couple is different, which is why these lists are limited in their helpfulness.

Instead, his actions are typically motivated out of love for God and love for others, and he’s been that way as long as I’ve known him.

Now, that’s not to say that I haven’t watched him mature over the years. That age difference means less and less as the years go on.

Instead, I hope you will do this work of discernment in community, with the direction of Scripture and the leading of the Holy Spirit.

God created unique image bearers, not categories, which is why I am SO grateful for the community counsel and the Holy Spirit vision that allowed me to see my husband not as a “younger man,” but as the man of God that he is.

Too often they reflect more about the list-maker’s personal preferences than solid biblical counsel.

You can spot this mistake when a list focuses on certain expressions of a virtue or vice, rather than the virtues or vices themselves.

For one semester, Stephanie and I had a frolicking good time.